“I won’t parent today, you can’t make me!” Is what I said to my husband on a Wednesday morning in June. I wasn’t feeling well… at all. I’d slept weird during the night and my neck was killing me, giving me a tension headache. Headache’s are serious y’all, and there are several ways that a mom might be feeling that will render us miserable while trying to take care of littles.
- Muscle Soreness
- Fever Blisters
- Foot Blisters
- Stomach Aches
- Sunburns (yes, seriously)
These are some ailments, to name a few, that often won’t get us out of our parenting for the day… but can leave a mom feeling uncomfortable, frustrated and probably pretty difficult to be around. There are definitely some topical and internal treatments that may help some of these, but I’d like to offer some seemingly out of the boxes tips that help me.
Oftentimes, when we’re sick, it’s our body’s way of telling us to slow down and listen. It’s so easy as a busy mama, trying to do, be and have it all… to lose sight of yourself. Sickness, while miserable, can be an excellent time to grow and know ourselves better. I believe the same is true for all minor ailments as well. Our bodies are always talking to us, we only have to slow down and tune int long enough to hear the marching orders.
Take a moment to be by yourself, in bed or somewhere quiet and comfortable to tune in and hear what’s happening. Ask your partner for a small amount of time (5-10-15 minutes) to tune in. Recognize how you feel, oftentimes it’s not just the physical discomfort, but something else as well. I will sit up in my bed, close my eyes (especially if I have a tension headache) and bring all of my attention to the spot that’s hurting. I’ll often tune in and feel other emotions as well.
For example, I had a pretty bad stomach ache the other morning and used this technique. I put all of my attention to spot (my gut) and started feeling… guilty! I felt guilty for feeling sick, guilty for sending my daughter to preschool, guilty that all of the meals I ate yesterday weren’t organic! I didn’t try to fix it… just listened. It helped a lot of the discomfort go away.
There are immense benefits to using EFT (emotional freedom technique) in situations like these! The relief is fast and it goes straight to the root of the discomfort. No, tapping won’t make a cold sore go away, but it’s always helps me to make things a little more bearable and even disappear quickly. I use the most simple way I’ve been able to find.
Using the left hand as your tapping point and the right hand as your tapping hand, apply force with your fingertips to the left hand “karate chop point”. Keep on going, it might feel strange but the impact can be enormous. After tapping for a minute, start to say in your head or out loud “even though I feel discomfort, I fully love and accept myself.” Keep on going…
EFT is a form of psychological acupressure, based on the same energy meridians used in traditional Chinese acupuncture to treat physical and emotional ailments for over five thousand years! All it is is simple tapping with the fingertips used to input kinetic energy onto specific meridians while you think about your specific problem and voice positive affirmations. You can learn more about the science of EFT here.
It sounds simple, but most of the world is completely dehydrated right now and it’s causing a lot of problems. When health care professionals suggest that we drink at least 8 oz. a day, that’s at minimum! Often, we wake up dehydrated if we didn’t have enough before bed or if we consumed dehydrating drinks like wine, liquor, alcohol or caffeine before bed.
My friend recently sent me a useful link to 15 Detox Water Recipes to Flush Your Liver. Aside from the gentle, detoxifying effect, they taste amazing and help when people think water is bland or boring. I know that sometimes I’ll have a hard time remembering 8 oz. or the 12 oz. I prefer to drink during the day, so I’ll actually fill up mason jars and put them in the fridge. I’ll drink them all throughout the day and feel great in the process.
These have been the fastest and most effective ways I’ve been able to get my mama groove back when parenting is the last thing I want to do that day. These tips also infuse a little “me” into the day, which can be crucial. All of that said, if you can pull off a swap with a friend, get a sitter for a bit or ask Grandma to come over and help out for a couple of hours, do it. I know it’s not always possible, but if you can it will give you even more “me” time and give you more time to heal up.
How do you cope with parenting on days when you’re not feeling well? Do you have anything physical or mental that helps you perk up and tune in? Please share in the comments below, I’d love to hear what you think!